A STUDY OF WISDOM FROM THE BOOK OF PROVERBS
The Power of
the Tongue
Proverbs 18 SCC
11/1/15
SECURITY IS A
PRODUCT OF TRUST IN GOD NOT ONE’S WEALTH 10-11
Most
people devise ways to ensure security for themselves. These verses explain what
is the source of true and false security. First, it is the Lord who is fully able
to protect those who trust in Him. It is the ‘name of the Lord’ (signifying the
attributes of God with power to protect) that is a ‘strong tower’ (providing
safety from harm). So it is in the character of God
that a person will be sustained. One can establish his or her life upon God’s
character. One who trusts that can constantly return to it for protection.
Second, people often
assume they can find this within their own wealth v 11. People with a lot of
wealth think they can find a lot of protection from it. However, we have
already learned that security is a product of trust in God’s character. So
discovering it in one’s wealth is not plausible. Actually, and protection
wealth may bring is limited. One may think his wealth is like a ‘strong city’
protecting one from outside elements or like a ‘high wall’ making one’s life
invincible to any disasters. The point is money simply cannot shield one from
many kinds of problems, disasters, or calamities. Neither will God. But the
difference is that God’s character is trustworthy as a source of security
throughout life while wealth has no ability to provide security and cannot
replace the Lord as the base of it. Worldly wisdom assumes one protects himself
with his wealth ‘in his own imagination’.
NB: One of the dangers of material prosperity is it tends to
make us think more of ourselves than we should. It lets our imagination tell us
we are better and more capable than we actually are. Find your refuge in God
alone. You can trust in God because you can count on his character.
A GOOD MARRIAGE
OF A MAN AND WOMAN IS A GOOD GIFT FROM GOD
It
is biblically true that matrimony is desirable. The Lord sanctioned marriage
between a man and a woman making it good by nature. Specifically, finding a
mate for life is the sign of the favor of God. The implication is the finding
of a ‘good’ wife, which is a ‘good’ thing. This can be broadened into a good
marriage affirming the background of Genesis 2:18 where it states that it was
‘not good for the man to be alone.’ In this case the ‘good’ describes that
which is pleasing to God, beneficial to one’s life, and is abundantly joyful. God
is pleased with the marriage of a man and a woman intending that this union be
the basis of sheer enjoyment and pleasure for both throughout life. Marriage
should not be trifled with. God has embedded the nature of marriage in scripture.
NB: Marriage is
an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. God supplies no
alternatives to the essence of marriage between a man and a woman. Let me
suggest that you have taken vows to your mate that you never took to your
career, your hobbies, or your parenting. God never wants to see a wife unloved
by her husband or a husband dishonored by his wife.
GOOD FRIENDS ARE NOT
NUMEROUS
It
is better to have one good, faithful friend than numerous unreliable ones. Just
as it is important to have friends, it is important not to have too many
friends. Actually, if you think you have a lot of friends, you are mistaken.
Friendship includes being loyal and trustworthy. Loyalty is a firm support or
allegiance. It is physically impossible to be loyal to a large number of
people, or have a large number of people loyal to you. Popularity is not
friendship. Don’t mistake many companions chosen indiscriminately as true
friends. One who loves you is far better than many who admire you. They may
only use you resulting possible painful or harmful consequences.
NB: Concentrate in being a friend rather than
finding them. But when you have one, reliable and loving, that is certainly a
rare treasure in life.
WORDS HAVE THE
POWER TO BE PRODUCTIVE
Our speech can
be a continual source of refreshing encouragement 4
The
verse begins by stating that the words of the wise are an inexhaustible supply
of beneficial ideas and helpful counsel. This use of words normally describes
the wise in Proverbs. The figure of ‘deep waters’ suggests that these words are
so appropriate that they seem profound. We might ask when this happens, ‘where did you come up with that, it’s nails it.’ The ‘bubbling
brook’ suggests that this speech is a continuous source of such profound
communication. These words are always helpful, encouraging and appropriate.
Our speech can
be satisfying 20
Productive
speech is satisfying. Both the ‘fruit of his mouth’ and the ‘product of his
lips’ express the idea of productive speech. Twice we are told it produces
‘satisfaction’. Constructive and beneficial speech is gratifying. It has no
holes in it. It speaks completely, incorporating words and answers and
communication that directly address the need in a full and comprehensive way. It
has a positive and uplifting impact.
NB: Why not use
your words for a positively powerful effect? Solomon says this is a wise use of
one’s speech. The way to do this is to orient your speech so that it is
productive in such a way that it constantly supplies refreshing encouragement
that fully satisfies those listening to it.
WORDS HAVE THE
POWER TO BE DESTRUCTIVE
Fools prefer
giving their opinions rather than be instructed by wisdom 2
The
double trouble of a fool is a closed mind and open mouth. Instead of gaining
knowledge he wishes to share his ignorance. While airing his own opinions he is
really only in love with his own ideas. While gushing folly he displays no
understanding. His words have no basis in wisdom.
Fools words
invite trouble 6
Foolish
people get themselves in trouble by what they say. His speech invites
controversies and since he is wrong he is punished or in some way put in his
place by family, or society. His thoughtless words are out of line and out of
place.
What a fool
says can ruin him 7
This
verse continues the previous point. First his lips open his mouth in v 6
leading to trouble. Now with his mouth still open v 7 his lips, which produced
this effect in the first place close, but it is too late to take it back. What
he has said has snared him. Now calamity and misfortune follow and ruin him. His
speech has become the means of his downfall.
People delight
in listening to gossip 8
Here
Solomon makes a sober observation about a common trait of humanity. Hearing
gossip is like eating a delicacy. Gossip is greedily devoured unfortunately. A
whisperer or gossip shares these delectable morsels for consumption with
willing listeners bent on hearing the information. These tasty bits are
digested, retained, remembered, and regurgitated. You can’t forget it and it
alters your thinking.
Speaking too
hastily leads to shame 13
When people see themselves as right, they will give an answer
before they hear. They are not open to knowledge. Poor listening reveals a low
regard for what another is saying or one is too absorbed in self-importance to
be sensitive to other’s speech. Solomon says this is folly because it is not
wise and ends in shame because wisdom is not gained like this resulting in
embarrassing consequences.
Superior’s
words can be unjustly harsh 23
One’s social status determines the tone of one’s voice. Here a
poor man ‘utters supplications’ for himself pleading his case because he has no
choice—like Bob Cratchit asking Scrooge to leave the
office at 6pm on Christmas Eve only to be harshly reprimanded as a pickpocket
wanting to leave an hour early plus have Christmas Day off. The rich man has
hardened himself to such appeals. This is generally the way of the world.
NB: There
are many many ways we can be destructive with our
speech. The destruction works both ways—ruining the speaker and provoking the
listener. This is no way to communicate to one another. Solomon says wise words
will not produce this effect. If one ignores that they do so to their own
peril.
WORDS
SHOULD ARBITRATE DISPUTES NOT CONTIRBUTE TO THEM
Cross-examination
is necessary to ensure a fair hearing 17
Whether legal, social, family, or marital, one side in a dispute
may seem right but the other for full disclosure must challenge it. Here we see
there are two sides to any dispute and some sort of mechanism must be in place
so all sides are given a hearing.
God’s
word supplies divine arbitration 18
In the Bible casting the lot was often a way to get a yes or no
decision from God when a serious and significant dispute needed to be settled.
Today Gods Word and its teaching figures prominently determining that divine
arbitration we see in the use of lots in the Bible.
Serious
disputes create insurmountable barriers among friends 19
Here is the reason for the caution of the previous two verses. Changing
a friend into an enemy by abuse is the way we erect walls that become barriers
that are then difficult to ever demolish. Restoring friendships after this kind
of fracture is nearly impossible. Don’t be contentious!
What
people say lead to life or death 21
The warning is that one’s speech alters life. The one saying it
and the others hearing it will eat what the tongue says. Its fruit is borne by
everyone. So those who enjoy talking, indulging in it, must bear its fruit
whether good or bad—life giving or death dealing. The lesson is to be
warned—especially if you like to talk much. Wisdom conserves speech.
SO
WHAT?
1. Think before you speak. Think some more and then reconsider
before you open your mouth. Once you do you cannot take it back.
2. Your words are powerful.
Develop your vocabulary and take the time to speak appropriate words that are
timely, beneficial, and encouraging even if you have to deliver bad news.
3. Sometimes we have to say
hard things but they do not need to be delivered harshly. You are not trying to
be heard as much as you are conveying truth that needs to be heard.