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Sex in the Beginning:

1) Godís original command to Adam was, Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue itÖ (Genesis 1:28).After Eve was created, Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man (Genesis 2:23).And the result was, And the man and the woman were both naked and were not ashamed (Genesis 2:25).

Sex after sin:

2) After their sin, we read, then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loin coverings (Genesis 3:21). For the first time, Now the man had relations with his wife Eve, and she conceived and gave birth to Cain (Genesis 4:1).

Sex today:

3) For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in lustful passion like the Gentiles who do not know God, and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity but in sanctification (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8).

Öit is good for a man not to touch a woman. But because of immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but he wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again lest Satan tempt you because of your lack of self-control (1 Corinthians 7:1-7).

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1. What is the command God gave Adam and what does sex have to do with that in Genesis 1:28?

INTERPRETATION: Godís command was___________________________________________________

APPLICATION: Therefore, I should________________________________________________________

2. What did Adam express about Eve in Genesis 2:23?

INTERPRETATION: Adam expressed appreciation____________________________________________

APPLICATION: Therefore, I should________________________________________________________

3. What can we say about the sexual nature of Adam and Eve from Genesis 2:25?

INTERPRETATION: Both Adam and Eve were_______________________________________________

APPLICATION: Therefore, I should________________________________________________________

4. What is different about their sexual nature after their sin in Genesis 3:21 & 4:1?

INTERPRETATION: The change is seen____________________________________________________

APPLICATION: Therefore, I should________________________________________________________

5. What characterizes the sex drive according to 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8?

INTERPRETATION: The sex drive is characterized as_________________________________________

APPLICATION: Therefore, I should________________________________________________________

6. What has God called us to and how has he told us to manage our sex drive in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8?

INTERPRETATION: God has called us to___________________________________________________

APPLICATION: Therefore, I should________________________________________________________

7. What is the solution God gives to express our sex drive in 1 Corinthians 7:1-7?

INTERPRETATION: The solution is________________________________________________________

APPLICATION: Therefore, I should________________________________________________________

8. What can happen if we do not use this solution in 1 Corinthians 7:1-7?

INTERPRETATION: We can______________________________________________________________

APPLICATON: Therefore, I should_________________________________________________________

 

TO SUMMARIZE:

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1.INTERPRETATION: In the beginning, sex was not the command of God. Godís command was (1) Be fruitful, (2) multiply, (3) fill the earth, and (4) subdue it. While sex would be necessary to do that, sex was not the focus of this command. It is not even clear that there was a sex drive before the fall. The focus is upon filling the earth. A man and woman can produce a living soul.

††††† APPLICATION: Therefore, I should plan on having children if and when I get married as the way of continuing Godís image representing Him here on earth.

2. INTERPRETATION: Adam expressed his appreciation for and acceptance of Eve, but once again, sex is not the focus. There most likely was no need for a command to have sex with Eve since living with a perfect partner in the middle of a secluded garden was enough to do that. It is obvious that Adam is very satisfied with what he sees.

†††† APPLICATION: Therefore, I should expect to be attracted to the opposite sex. That attraction will motivate me to want to have her/him as a sexual partner.

3. INTERPRETATION: Both Adam and Eve were given their sexual natures by God. Yet, there is little evidence that they had sex before the fall or had made it the focus of their relationship wit each other. While they may have had some sort of sex drive, it could not be described with the kind of intensity that it has been influenced by today. They were simply naked and not ashamed meaning, they were at ease with each other without fear of being exploited for evil.

†††† APPLICATION: Therefore, I should express my sexuality in the context of a shared relationship with my life partner bringing joy and ease with one another resulting in pleasure and not fear.

4. INTERPRETATION: It was not until after they had sinned, were thrown out of the garden, and were too ashamed to not wear clothes, that we read for the first time that they had sexual relations. Adam and Eve tried to hide the consequences of their sin with fig leaves because their conscience was aroused by their sin. They were trying to relieve their conscience which had convicted them. It was in this context that they first had sexual relations.

†††† APPLICATION: Therefore, I should recognize that my sex drive as I experience it is part of the curse not a gift from God.

5. INTERPRETATION: The sex drive is characterized as sexual immorality, lustful passion, transgression and defrauding, impurityóall of which is negative about sex. In other words, the sex drive is perverted by sin and we are warned that it must be kept under control. To do that we must avoid and not engage in any sexual activity like premarital sex, extramarital sex, homosexuality, incest, prostitution. Uncontrolled sexual passions involve other people in behavior that is sinful and also makes them accountable to God.

†††† APPLICATION: Therefore, I should understand that I will experience sinful sexual urges that if uncontrolled will dishonor God, and harm people and my relationship with them for which I will be accountable to God.

6.INTERPRETATION: God has called us to sanctification, abstinence, self-control, and discipline of our sinful sexual passions. So we control these urges because we belong to God who has set us apart as His own possession. We should not mimic the people who do not know God-like Hollywood or musical artists sexually. Godís calling upon our lives is one of holiness not indulgence. If we neglect this we can except God to hold us accountable.

††††† APPLICATION: Therefore, I should control my sexual urges because God has called me to do that and not indulge my sex drive like the world does.

7.INTERPRETATION: The solution God gives to express my sex drive is in life-long marriage. Again, everything about sex is negative. A man should not touch a womanóa touch that leads to sexual desires. The solution to these sexually immoral tendencies we have is to express them in the context of marriage/sex. The command to have marriage/sex is to keep us from immorality. So a husband and a wife are free to enjoy a sexual relationship in the context of a marriage. This is the only safe sex there is. Sex is a drive that needs to be controlled and the limit of that control is within marriage.

††††† APPLICATION: Therefore, I should enjoy sexual relations only in a lifelong marriage of a man and a woman.

8.INTERPRETATION: One warning even in marriage/sex is not depriving each other sexually because that opens you up to the temptation of not controlling your sexual sinful urges. The only time you should set aside sexual relations in marriage is to devote yourself to prayer for a time. It is for spiritual reasons only and only for a specified thing for a specified time. Otherwise, your partner is susceptible to the sexual urges of a sinful sex drive. Sex in marriage is Godís way of controlling our perverted sexual urges.

††††† INTERPRETATION: Therefore, I should determine to fulfill my marriage partners sexual urges as a way of helping avoid the temptation of an uncontrolled sex drive.